宁人负我，我不负人nìng rén fù wǒ , wǒ bù fù rén

I’d rather someone let me down,but I will never let anyone down
❍ 有人把陈晓的咒骂报告赵雄，赵雄显着宽宏退让的神气说：“由他吧！～。”(高云览《小城春秋》226)When people told Zhao Xiong about it,he was generously forgiving. “let him speak，” he said. “I’d much rather that he blame me.I will never blame him.”